Life in Naija has become akin to a setting that exemplifies “one week, one trouble.”
Except that an apt description of ours is ‘every week, some drama’.
However, the ‘drama’ of this week is most unfortunate. This is because a life was snuffed out in the most bizarre of circumstances and ‘unrestrained emotions’ will yet define the rest of another life.
I am talking about the young man that was said to be stabbed to death by his wife.
When a friend sent their pictures (apparently taken on the day of their wedding), I said to myself “little did he know that this marriage will seal his destiny in an unfortunate way.”
Everyone marries to be ‘happy’ or at least have peace but life, being what it is, ensures that it may not always happen as one envisaged, hoped, dreamed or even prayed it to be.
The saga is a trending discourse with some people having since chucked the incident to an ‘ego of a spoilt child of immoral privileges.”
However anybody chooses to read the situation, may we also reflect on the real issues in this very unfortunate situation.
*When it happens to other people, we bare our fangs of “he should have/she could have” but many of us have experienced incidents (that could have had a similar outcome) in our spaces.
For every ‘domestic violence’ that made news, countless more are happening in homes with no possibility of abating.
Beyond the social glib, let whoever that has experienced domestic violence or meted out same to a spouse understand that their issues could have as easily got out of hand and their ‘gist’ ended up as this trending discourse.
Can this (at least) sober us up?
*A lot of us (in this environment) have anger management issues. Sadly, it is a vital part of ‘attitude moulding’ that is deficient in most ‘upbringing’ here.
*A lot of people in this environment are not mentally stable; at least not by a ‘civilised’ standard.
From the police man (whose ‘road conduct’ is akin to that of someone who gave you money to keep for him and just wants it back) to a public official whose ‘looting’ defies logic .
Only UNSTABLE MINDSET can describe one who can loot what he may never need in a life time while lives (that can effortlessly be turned around with a fraction of all that) wallow in ‘lack.’
*This fact-everyone should grasp before saying ‘I do’. Embrace the acceptability that he/she has EVERY right to ‘look elsewhere’ at any point in that marital journey. And WALKING AWAY (if you can’t deal) is as far as your own right (in that setting) goes.
In other words, when what you are seeing in a marriage is no longer what you bargained for, you have the option of getting out. But don’t choose to stay-only to become the content of a BODY BAG or even let yourself be pushed into ‘losing it’ in absurdity. Once death is involved, your grievances (whatever they may be) will no longer matter.
*If you can’t have a misunderstanding with another without making moves to inflict injury, you need help!
*Nobody should endanger your life in anyway just as you have no right to endanger that of another.
*May parents understand that giving a child ‘an open cheque’ lifestyle is no training. That ‘sense of entitlement’ they carry around often plays up a huge negative in them.
*We now know that MEN are also victims of domestic violence even if they are not quick to ‘dramatise’ their ordeals.
Regardless of the varied sentiments:
Parents have lost a child.
A child has lost a father.
A sibling has lost a brother.
Someone has lost a friend.
Therefore, JUSTICE should prevail!
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