I want us to discuss the prouding woman syndrome. If you are a Nigerian, then you must have heard that women are people who should never have money, education and power or they will become too proud and be very abusive. Yes, that wonderful saying brought up by idle men and women who actually have no idea what they are talking about.
No one is exempt from pride. Even a poor, uneducated person has pride, and to make it more interesting, I find it very odd that people will say men have this huge ego thing and it is a major issue, then at the same time to say money and education make a woman have more pride than a man. It makes absolutely no sense, really.
When people say that a woman gets proud because of these things, I laugh because I know where some of these men are coming from. When you do a proper research, you find out that some of them do not even know the lady in question at all! Their assumption is that the moment she has any of those things, she is proud, but the truth is in this case, men are just suffering from a massive overdose of inferiority complex.
It hurts to hear I am sure but it is true. It is like the proverbial case of a person not being able to change themselves and so they embark on a campaign of changing others and the world to suit themselves. Instead of a man to face his life and improve, he will sit in judgement of a woman’s accomplishments and declare her a bad person. If that is not a modern day form of winchi-ism (aka witchcraft) I do not know what it is!
You cannot stand afar off and judge who is proud and who is not. Much like the ‘Humble woman detector’ which was my first article, it makes no sense to set yourself up for a job that nobody has sent you to do and it speaks more of your having one issue or the other that you have not sorted out.
If you see a lady who succeeds in some areas of her life, it is something to be happy and proud about. It is not a reason to fear her and call her names. But do not tell that to some naija men. Remember what I said about marriage being their number one ace in the hole? They brandish it with such pride you want to throw up. They will hear “Amanda” is doing well, She has bought a new car and she is doing her masters now and works for a multinational company. Rather than be happy for her or at best advise her on how to do better or balance work and school, here is what they will say; “Well, she should not let it get to her head and start treating men badly sha.” “ok. But she is not complete without a man in her life.” “I hope she will still be submissive after all these things.”
Women even join in this malady and when they start declaring how they will find it hard to get husbands with all those things they have and do. It is so annoying. It makes me want to tear my hair out and I am not even a female! When a man is the one making the money and a new car, we all hear congratulations all round and he is told to do more. This kind of mentality makes it so clear that women are still seen as less than men and second class citizens. It would shock you to know that whether as a single woman or a married one, females in this part of the world are still largely seen as underneath men and not worth much in totality.
I know that not all men think and act this way but let us be honest, they are all over the place and they are not ashamed of it because they know the society agrees with them. As for me, I want to marry a woman who has plenty money. I did not come to Lagos to look at flyover and be eyeing people that are not serious with their lives. Anyone who wants that for themselves can continue their journey. I no dey for that one, biko
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nice piece. society jus got better with stuffs like this.thumbs up.all d best.more more success