She had just had a baby when things became rough for the husband. His relatives sniffed out a spiritualist, who claimed that his place is The Solution Ground.
The ‘solution ground’ became his second home. He went there to pray daily, facing a certain angle towards the sky. She could not believe what her ‘engineer’ husband has allowed himself to be reduced to. They took her there one day and insisted she lay her baby on a mat during one of their ‘sessions.’ But she made it clear that she was not going to subject her ‘few days old’ baby to all that noise.
That affront from her afforded the husband and his people the opportunity of reminding her that his BAD LUCK actually started the moment she came into his life. Thus, began the end of a once enviable marriage! That marriage is no more but then, his lot can’t be said to have improved either. He has only succeeded in visiting more ‘solution grounds’ in addition to shopping for a ‘luck carrying’ wife material.
A few years back, a little girl’s fingers were seared because a spiritualist claimed she was behind her widowed father’s ‘bad luck’ in life. Only for the investigating authorities to discover that the so-called female spiritualist was having an affair with the man and the girl (whose fingers were seared) didn’t seem to like the woman as a replacement for her late mum.
If that man’s wife was alive, she probably would be accused of being behind the husband’s woes.
For some reason, this LUCK shopping is more common with men. Ladies, you see that man whose major response to your presence in his life is calculating THE LUCK that accompanied you into his life, hesitate NOT as you take to your heels from him. Small mindedness can’t be more exemplified.
You are seeing someone who never takes responsibility for anything. People who are perpetually calculating the kind of luck someone brings into their lives are incapable of understanding that the tides of life can come with a smile or tears for anyone. And that life has seasons.
Whatever befalls them is because of someone somewhere. Understanding that one’s destiny is primarily in their own hands is beyond them.
Listen! The presence of anybody in your life may/may not enhance the quality of your choices/actions (due to their input) but it ends there. Nobody is responsible for the rest of your life.
God does not need you to ‘label’ anybody before He can come through for you. So, quit the luck shopping and learn to take your destiny into your own hands!
Dear young ladies, when a man is really struggling to find his feet and you aren’t capable of bringing anything to the table yet, it pays to INSURE YOUR SANITY by making efforts to get a job or find something doing before going into that marriage.
It’s less stressful when a man loses his economic balance and ‘support’ is coming from somewhere until he picks up again.
It’s not about ‘a man who cannot provide for his family being worse than an infidel’ but the REALITY of the times.
If you have to go into that marriage and start from DAY ONE to defend your innocence towards his LUCK/DESTINY, it’s better you step back and find yourself first!
If you can LOVINGLY share a pack of ‘noodles’ while courting him, it will no longer be fun in marriage. And it will even drive you INSANE when a baby comes on board.
I also think it is high time women eschewed the ‘man that will take care of me’ mentality when seeking a marriage partner. The priority should be to find a worthy companion. This is because in true companionship, everything ‘good’ (especially ‘giving’) naturally follows!
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