One of the most fascinating pieces of evidence about Easter is change, the dates have never been stagnant like many other festive celebrations, it changes year in year out in accordance with the Jewish calendar, which is based on solar and lunar cycles.
This year’s Easter celebration certainly means Easter eggs and chocolate bunnies to children, who receive colourful baskets filled with eggs and candies.
Nevertheless, on the contrary, the significance of Easter declares a season of love, hope and a new beginning of life and everything that needs renewal especially marriages too. Even when you set your belief aside, the Easter story is that of loving someone even in desperate situation and to accommodate change so that love can fit in the right places in your lives, your marriage and your home.
Spouse changed
One of the issues some married couples face is personal changes as they often forget that a spouse is first and foremost an individual with his or her own characteristics, which may have little or no relevance to their marital commitments.
Everyone has aspirations in life but when your spouse’s change becomes so rapid that he or she suddenly becomes threatening, it can bring an unrealistic expectations of living happily ever after.
Every individual is different but marriage has the capacity to recognise changes if both of you become open and sincere with one another. Be prepared to complete and support your spouse rather than criticise him after all the real act of marriage takes place in the heart.
Love changed
Marriage is a beautiful thing but love and trust makes the perfect marital experiences. Love is not stagnant; it can suddenly become a stranger after many years of marital fulfilment.
Perhaps your spouse, who once was able to express her love to you freely, emotionally and sensually, has become detached and now enjoys her own company because love has changed in your marriage.
Perhaps you have constantly broken your promises to your spouse and your words have become empty overtime. That same change can also revisit the troubles in your marriage and take its rightful place when you start to put her needs before your own.
Loss changed
Although death is inevitable but losing someone you love dearly can have serious consequences on your emotional health, which can leave you questioning the essence of loving anyone again.
Everyone grieves differently even when they are grieving the same loss, perhaps you both lost a loved one a while ago and your spouse has become heartbroken ever since and that has led to changes because she believes that you do not understand nor feel her pains.
Loss can become a shut down defence mechanism for a partner in grief as he or she becomes a total stranger in the most distressing circumstances.
Nevertheless, this change can also bring positive changes when you both decide to seek professional help and find the best possible ways to support each other towards building a healthier marital relationship after your loss.
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