Please Get To Work by Chukwuneta Oby
A response to one of my articles reads ‘’I know many Nigerian women don’t seem to like it when a man goes for or dates a younger lady but that’s an issue of personal preference. Many men don’t want to deal with all the issues of the older ladies…old and sagged body parts; wrinkled faces and the inability to perform in the bedroom. So; let a man live his life; women have the opportunity to date younger men also if they choose to. I am 53 -about to be 54 and if I ever decide to marry again -trust me; she must be between 30 and 39.I am not about to settle for less just to satisfy the public.
I feel that getting on with an older woman might as well feel like romancing the stone since nothing of hers would be that enticing compared to the younger ladies. I have heard many people say that men should hook up with women their age but that’s for the birds; women age faster than men, moreover- if marriage is only for companionship like many of you claim- I wouldn’t be married, I will rather join the nursing homes for the seniors, where all the old ladies are harboured for such companionship….menopause, dry privates and less interest in sex are some of the turn offs for men on older women. Therefore; we the smarter guys have our concrete reasons for running away from drought ridden privates, where multiple applications of jelly lotions (to lubricate it) is absurd and tiring’’.
From Oby: Any man that still harbours sorry thoughts(such as the above) about women has obviously not come across a modern woman…women who are constantly giving(even) those that are half their age a run for their money-in every sense of the word… looks, carriage, bedroom things…you name it!
Of course, with age-a thing or two in ‘every’ human body goes south and men are not spared either. So, what’s this talk about older ladies? As if men don’t age!
Women age faster than men? Then you are yet to meet women who make efforts on themselves. Certain ‘noise’ from some persons kind of makes one wonder the kind of people they have been meeting or is it a case of ‘like attracting like’? If your sexual leaning is towards ‘young things’…it is completely your choice but do not justify your cravings with ignorant assumptions.
It’s funny when those who don’t understand (even) the basics about a woman’s emotions/body claim to be the ‘smart’ ones. The question (firstly) for such persons should be…‘what feelings do you evoke in those women’? I mean, a lot of women are known to get ‘wet’ by the mere words of a man. But something about the mindset of this brother (towards women) makes it likely that the end of his romance with lubricants (or is it jelly lotions) is not in sight. A whole lot gets a woman ‘in the mood’ (which brings on the wetness, anyway)…and it is for a man (that knows he is a ‘man’) to discover.
It is unfair to tag a woman ‘rigid’ when a man has not appraised his methods and/or endowments and is actually sure that what he ‘gives’ her is not a ‘groundnut size’ (for example)…is it not ‘wickedness’ to expect a moan and(even) ‘reggae moves’ from such ‘recipients’? What if she desires them sizable but can’t hurt your feelings?
For every woman you use lubricants on, someone else can get her all wet with mere words/a touch.
Get to work, please …and only know you have succeeded when any woman you ‘meet’ stops needing lubricants to feel you!!!